I am trying to get my wife interested in discovering B/D.

I have tried to ease into discussions of tying without much reaction. (She's
not ready to talk about it - and she knows that if she lets me get going
my enthusiasm will carry me forward too fast (true for anything) - which she
is not ready for.  But she has not said "NO WAY" either - which (in our
wonderful(?) nonverbal-communication-as-artform) means that she has not
rejected the subject either). 

I really like driving W slowly crazy and making her come.  There is
something special about having complete control of a beautiful woman.
I am pretty good at controlling our love making to extend it and
enhance her pleasure, but I really would like to restrain her so I
can take as long as I want and really drive her nuts.  There is
something about concentrating my whole self on giving her pleasure while
not letting her have what she wants until I say she can that combines
love and cruelty in a way that just sends me over the edge. 

Well, anyway, since the direct approach was not gaining ground, I tried some
subtlety.  I printed out some stories from xxxstoryxxx.com and if she liked it I could print out
some more...

We are both rather heavy readers (addicts is really too strong a term -
we could quit any time, we just choose not to...).  We'd rather read than
do whatever it is we are supposed to be doing.  I tend toward sci-fi
and W tends towards romance, though we do read a reasonable amount of
other things (omnivorously).  Right now we are very tight for cash which has
cut down on the number of books we are buying.  We are selling one house,
planning and building another house, work is a very heavy load for me right
now, kids are being a heavy load for her.   We have too many chores to do
so we really can't afford the lost time of going to the library and bringing
home books (and reading them).  But we WANT to!  Which leaves us both a bit
desperate.  I knew she'd read almost anything if it happened to be lying
around.

So, when she was looking for something to read I produced this listing that
I just happen to have uploaded and printed out...  Well, she wasn't as
interested in the story line as I expected - it's a love story, but too
much sci-fi for her taste.  She read half the listing and left it on the
floor for a few days.  I very casually (am I fooling anyone?) asked her what
she had liked about it.  I was very surprised when she said that the plot
was ok but she really liked the sex scenes. 

Well, the listing lay on the floor for a few days, unfinished. 
(or maybe a few weeks - for a while there I was working straight through
evenings, weekends, etc. trying to get a software release out and kind of
lost track of time (and everything else)).  Anyway, on the first weekend
that I'd been home in a long time, we went to bed early ('cause I was
exhausted).  W wanted something to read and wondered where that listing
had gotten too (I just happened to know).  She started reading it.  I
read over her shoulder for a while, then fell asleep.

Some time later W rolled me over gently and asked if I was too sleepy
to make love (mmph? huh? oh! never!).  I was mostly asleep and quite passive.
She kissed me deeply, then started kissing down my neck, down to my nipples
which she kissed and gently nibbled (which felt WONDERful).  When I put my
hands up to stroke her she took them and pushed them up over my head and said
"keep them there".  I am in reasonably good shape and W likes muscles
that stand out, so I clasped my hands together and did my best to flex what
I have.  She liked that and stroked the various ridges and hollows. 
She was straddling me on all fours and I writhed up against her - I couldn't
stroke her with my hands so I used my whole body - rubbing her legs and
stomach and breasts and moaning a bit 'cause it all felt really good.

Then she continued down my stomach.  I am not a ticklish person.  I have
always envied W because she is sensitive all over.  When she's not horny
she's very ticklish.  When she's excited I can stroke her anywhere
she loves it.  When she tries to return the favor I just don't get much
out of it which she finds very disappointing.  Actually there are two
places where I am ticklish - in the hollows between my hipbones and pubic
hair.  In those two small spots I am desperately ticklish.. scream-and-
leap ticklish.  Not something I enjoy at all.  That disappoints W too.

W drifted down my stomach, kissing and licking and nibbling ...  I
realized she was going to cross one of those spots and moved so she'd miss -
and she moved with me (Oh No!).  She held onto me and buried her tongue into
the dead center of one of my ticklish spots.  I yelped and folded up and
grabbed for her head.  She snapped "PUT your hands BACK."  Auuugh!!!!  I
grabbed onto the sheets and tried to remain uncurled while W did her best to
make me SCREAM. 

I have never allowed anything to tickle me there for more than a few
fractions of a second.  I cannot describe what this was like - a finger
in a light socket is almost the same but totally different (ok, I wasn't
very coherent at the time).  It was awful - but I didn't want it to stop.
I wanted to smash her away but used all of my strength to lock myself
ridgid so I wouldn't.  I was very relieved and terribly disappointed when
she stopped - and I had a raging erection.  And I discovered I was
extremely sensitive all over. 

W noticed this too and started drifting down again, ignoring my erection,
continuing to tickle with her lips and teeth!  I have never been so sensitive
or so ticklish.  It was like my skin was peeled back leaving just nerve
endings which W was licking and stroking and...  She found my inner thighs were
very sensitive and gently bit first one then the other while I tried to crush
her head between my legs! 

Finally she eased herself up, then rose until she was sitting over
me and just brushing the tip of my penis with her pubic fur.  I reached
for her hips to pull her down and she moved my hands to her nipples.
I rubbed them, making her close her eyes and give little "mmmm"s of
pleasure.  She started moving lightly down and up, just letting the
tip of my penis into her hot vagina, then out (cold), in (hot), out (cold)
riding up when I tried to thrust up, just barely letting me in, (hot) (cold)
(hot!) until she suddenly smashed down, driving me all the way in and we
fucked furiously for a short time and exploded into and around each other.

Nothing moved for a while.  Then she quietly said something like "maybe
we SHOULD get some handcuffs..."

So much for my careful plans of domination.  I don't know who's going to
be doing what to whom anymore.  All I can say it I LOVE it.  We've made
love several times since, each has been very different, and outstanding.
The next chunk of spare time I have I'm going to experiment with some
rope and see what I can come up with.  It's got to be soft and wide enough
to hold W's wrists without bruising them (she bruises easily) but strong
enough to hold me.  I've got Ashley and a reasonable amount of experience
with rope-work, so I should be able to come up with something.  Our chintzy
angle iron bed frame probably won't stand up to much real pulling, but I'll
replace that bridge when it falls out from under me.